My buddy told me I argue with people instead of facts, and it wrecked me for a week
He said watching me debate flat earth stuff was like watching someone swing at ghosts because I kept attacking the person instead of the claim. So now I write the other side's argument down first and read it back before I reply, and honestly half the time I can't even finish it. How do you all keep from going after the person when the claim is just so dumb?
You see this everywhere though, not just online debates. Someone cuts you off in traffic and suddenly they're a terrible human being instead of just a bad driver for five seconds. The writing it down thing is smart because it forces that same pause in real life.